brene brown

Hearing Brene Brown (#31DaysofBlogging)

This blog is a part of a series #31DaysofBlogging … we are going through the year (2015) chronologically

Another definite highlight of 2015 was in October when we were able to hear someone speak that we greatly respect and admire. Her name is Brene Brown and she studies shame and vulnerability (just the light, fluffy stuff you know?) She is an author, researcher, speaker, wife, mother, BFF to Oprah and so on. We LOVE learning from this woman.

I (Kate) had discovered her book “I Thought It Was Just Me But It Isn’t” about six years ago and knew immediately that this woman’s writing was different. The things she was talking about were topics that not many people were talking about. It was the hard stuff. She wasn’t just talking about shame, she was researching it, scientifically. She wasn’t just talking about science though...she was talking about how shame and vulnerability had played out in her own life. After devouring that first book, I started reading “The Gifts of Imperfection.” Again, another book that spoke to some deep issues that I didn’t feel like a lot of other people were writing about.

Flash forward several years and Brene has exploded onto the scene (WOOHOO!) Her TED talk has been viewed over 22 million times (no joke) and her two latest books “Daring Greatly” and “Rising Strong” have sold like crazy and been in almost every.single.book.club.ever.

When we heard she was going to be 4 hours from us speaking at a conference our friend Tyler runs, we knew we had to be there. We got up at 4am and drove to Atlanta so we could see her speak. 

Hitting the road before the sun came up….

Hitting the road before the sun came up….

You guys. She was so lovely. She was speaking to 10,000 people and made you feel like she was talking just to you. She spoke with quiet authority, she made jokes, she shared her own failures...it was wonderful.

Brene speaking and laying it down. 

Brene speaking and laying it down. 

There are a million little take-aways that we learned that day and we want to share just one. “If you’re leading, you WILL fail.” Not maybe. Not on an off chance. You WILL fail. And failing is a part of the journey. It’s a vital part of the story.

Ain't that the truth. We have failed SO many times and we are learning that it is not only OK to fail, but necessary to fail in order to grow. Wow. That sucks, but is also awesome. It continues to be a theme this year for us. Failure...and how to accept it, learn from it, and recover from it. (Remember how we talked to a bunch of law students about our biggest failures earlier in the year?)

This is a picture of us capturing the time...it's 9:30pm and we are driving BACK to Nashville after hearing Brene and others speak. Hardcore of us. 

This is a picture of us capturing the time...it's 9:30pm and we are driving BACK to Nashville after hearing Brene and others speak. Hardcore of us. 

There really is so much more we learned, but truth be told, we left our journals that we wrote all of our notes in back in Nashville and right now we are both at home with our families in Colorado (Kate) and New Hampshire (Jill). Hahaha...just telling it like it is. We took about a hundred pages of notes between the two of us during Brene's talk, but we wanted to leave you with just one today. 

Now, go enjoy Christmas EVE EVE...and while you're at it, buy one of Brene's books for yourself or as a last-minute Christmas gift for someone you love. You won't regret it.

See you tomorrow as we continue blogging through the year!

-j&k-

Processing

Morning. I've been wanting to blog the last few days and for some reason I just haven't done it. Trying to figure out why. I think sometimes there is so much going on in my head & heart that I get overwhelmed and I just can't get anything out on paper (who uses paper anymore...I mean my computer.) If I were a car I think I'd be on the side of the road with steam coming out of the hood of the car. Well wait, maybe that's a bad example...cause that would mean I'd be broken-down...and I don't think I am...I'm just overwhelmed. But not my traditional overwhelmed feeling.

Normally when I feel overwhelmed it's because things are coming at me so quickly & I have so much to do that I am tired, overwhelmed and exhausted. But that's not how I feel right now. It's kind of the opposite. I am getting plenty of sleep most nights. There's a lot of stuff going on, but we're pretty organized. We've been building a team around us and so we aren't having to do as much of the "business side" of "Jill and Kate"...which is SO WONDERFUL.

When we were on the road with Kelly we were busy. Traveling all the time, rehearsing, home for a few days here and there, etc...and it was AWESOME. Loved it. Now, I am home a lot more and traveling a bit less so it's just an adjustment for me. I would say I am almost equally as busy, the "busy" just looks different.

So, why am I overwhelmed? Because I have time on my hands. I have time to think. And process. Which is great, but when you aren't used to that rhythm it can be a little paralyzing. The "norm" used to be go, go, go and evaluate when you are on the brink of a nervous breakdown. No time to evaluate when you're in it. Currently, I have time and I'm trying to think through things. How am I doing? Am I doing the things in my life that make me happy? Am I content? Am I doing things that matter? And all of those questions and soul digging are good, it's just been a lot for me.

A friend and I were talking yesterday and she said that she's been reading Brene Brown's books and something she says in her books is that perfectionists and over-achievers have a hard time with down time because the over-achieving and perfectionism is a coping mechanism...the coping mechanism is a way they get out of self analyzing. Ugh, that's so me. I own two of Brene's books...started reading one of them years ago and it was too much for me. It spoke to me a little too directly. Maybe I should pick them up again. That might help.

Anyway...I kind of want to wrap this up with a "nothing to see here folks.....just me writing my thoughts and trying to process..."

xo

-kate