Great (or Not-So-Great) Expectations

It's funny how whenever I have moments that seem to rock my world I hear Oprah saying..."That was your Ah-Ha moment..." Well, I had an "Ah-Ha" moment the other day.

It hit me like a ton of bricks. I was scrolling through Instagram...as you do....and bam. It saw me. These words jumped from the screen like a knife to the gut.

photo(Thanks to Mark Howerton {husband to our friend Kristen Howerton} for posting this little gem.)

I immediately freaked out and said out loud..."Wait. What? Really!"

I started talking to friends about this and saying...is this true?

Do you agree with this?

HOW COULD THIS BE TRUE? How have I missed the boat on this important life lesson because all of my friends said a resounding "Yes. That is total truth." OMG.

I could not stop thinking about this sentence. Expectation. Heartache. Where the heck had I gone wrong? As more conversation developed, I realized a few things:

I consider myself a pretty upbeat, positive person and last week I would have told you that I have mostly high expectations about life (and that that was a good thing.) That those high expectations were because I am a positive person who believes in a good positive, mental attitude. Wrong.

Well, folks. I am giving up expectations. High ones. Low ones. ALL OF THEM. This is because as I look back over my life and think of my greatest heartaches (with guys, friends, family or career)...I would say almost ALL OF THEM are because I had high expectations and if it didn't go exactly according to the plan in my head, I'd be disappointed. Even if I didn't show that disappointment on the outside there was generally an inner battle going on trying to control it all.

As I talked with friends, we realized that having low expectations or high expectations can both be equally disappointing and can end in giant HEARTACHE. I don't know about you, but I am trying desperately to get rid of excess heartache in my life.  I always thought that people with low expectations had a negative attitude on life and were kind of "Debbie Downer-ing" their way through it all. I don't think that anymore.

Somehow I got "having a positive attitude" mixed up with "high expectations" and I'm trying to change that.

Whatever situation comes I am trying to not have expectations...just a positive attitude. Saying, whatever comes up, whatever happens, whatever I'm looking forward to--I will try to not control it in my mind with expectations. I will walk into it with a positive attitude and be in the moment but without the expectation in my heart and mind.

Because...I think having expectations is how control freaks like myself sometimes cope when things feel out of control. I plan everything out so there is not possibility of being hurt. I guess that's what it boils down to...avoiding hurt. Well, folks, that ain't happening. I'm trying to give up the control and the expectations that come along with that.

Anyway. Just my thoughts.

Sending lots of love and a positive attitude :)

-kate