We've Been There Too

Hello friends.

So, there is this show that’s out right now and some of you have watched it and some of you probably haven’t...it covers some serious topics including rape and suicide. We watched it and all I can say is that since we have finished it we have both been consumed with sadness. The show is graphic and hard to watch...and while I don’t think I would recommend you watching it, it did awaken something inside each of us that made us want to share this blog and some thoughts with you.

At the end of the day, there are a lot of people hurting, feeling sad, feeling alone, and hiding how they are really doing on the inside. The outside might seem shiny and put together, but on the inside things are falling apart. Friends, readers of this blog...we need to acknowledge this. Depression is normal. Sadness is normal. Hurt is normal. But, while thinking that you are alone in the world is normal, it is NOT TRUE.

If you were to ask us why we write songs, we would tell you we do it for 3 reasons:

  1. It is therapeutic for us.
  2. God made us to do this.
  3. We want to fight loneliness.

That last one. That is the big one. We write songs and share our experiences because we want you to hear a song that we wrote and realize that you aren’t alone. That we’ve felt it too. We always say that loneliness is the worst disease and if someone can hear a song or meet another person at a show and share an experience or a feeling...that’s what it’s all about for us. That’s why we do fan meet-ups, J&K 5K weekends, meet & greets, etc. We want you to feel seen, connected to others and maybe, just maybe, less lonely. And we want to feel less lonely too.

We decided to make a bullet point list that is hopefully helpful to you. It’s a list to show you that what you are feeling...we have felt it too. And we've written songs about it. We are all in this together.

If you're feeling lonely: we've been there too: TIRED OF BEING ALONE

If you're feeling too worried: we've been there too: QUIT WORRYING

If you think you'll never get over the person that just broke your heart and is ignoring your texts/calls: we've been there too. NEVER OVER YOU

If you wish you could bring someone who has died back to life: we've been there too: BRING YOU BACK TO LIFE

If you're feeling hopeless: we've been there too: MY LOVE

If you've just been through a breakup & nothing makes sense: we’ve been there too: NOTHING MAKES SENSE

If your friends change and are maybe going through an addiction: we've been there too: ONE DAY

If you're feeling happy (and a little sassy): we've been there too: POP SONG

If you're devastated after a breakup and never want to open your heart again: we've been there too: IN LOVE AGAIN

If you feel betrayed & need a clean start: we've been there too: BURN IT DOWN

If you’re feeling discouraged about the state of the world: we've been there too: SAME SIDE

If you have a crush and everything reminds you of them: we've been there too: TOGETHER BABY

If you are feeling jaded: we've been there too: HEART OF STONE

If you feel like you're getting in your own way: we've been there too: CHASING STORMS

If you’re wondering if love will ever happen: we've been there too: YOU MIGHT BREAK MY HEART

If the pain is too much & you are numb: we've been there too: DON'T FEEL A THING

If life is changing fast: we've been there too: I CAN'T REMEMBER WHAT IT'S LIKE

If something is over and you need to move on: we've been there too:  GUESS I BETTER MOVE ON

If you need a role model: we've been there too: SARAH

If you are needing a miracle and need God to rescue you: we've been there too: RESCUE


So, this is sort of a reference guide for some general feelings that we’ve written songs about. What we want you to know is that you aren’t alone. If you are reading this and feel like giving up on life because it’s too hard or you’ve screwed up one too many times...you haven’t. There is always hope. Please, ask for help. Tell someone how you are really doing. If you don’t know how to start, just say “I’m not okay.”

Social media doesn’t always help because most of us really only post the highlight reel of life...the shiny, perfect, winning moments. There aren't a lot of pictures of broken hearts or pillows drenched in tears...which is fine because social media wasn’t meant for that...humans were meant for that.

We always say, “share your truth.” Speak it out loud to someone. Even if it’s a stranger on a help hotline. We promise that by verbalizing your feelings, by naming them out loud, they start to not threaten you as much. And if we’re all honest, life is hard...and these feelings that you are feeling are universal. We’ve all felt a version of them. So, we are begging you, remember, you are not alone.

We all can make a change. In our homes, communities, schools, workplaces,  neighborhoods...wherever we are. Call someone and check on them. Ask people how they are really doing. Look for the person not talking to anyone at a social event.

We think this is so important, you guys. So we are going to be having a “j&k family meeting” on FB LIVE tomorrow (WEDNESDAY 5/3) at 3pm CST to talk a little bit more about this and to play a few of these songs. Tune in.

And remember, if you are hurting and need help: we have ALL been there. You are okay and you CAN get through this. Reach out to someone. See you tomorrow.

Seriously, we love you all.

Jill and Kate

National Suicide Prevention Hotline Number: 1-800-273-8255

To Write Love On Her Arms: https://twloha.com/find-help/local-resources/