Transformational (A Writing Exercise)

As promised in the 2nd video of our Inspiration series, here is a writing exercise we do that dramatically helps us find inspiration when we are in a rut!

In case you missed it, here is how to do this writing exercise:



Grab a book.

Close your eyes.

Open the book to any page.

Put your finger on a point on the page.

Open your eyes.

What word is your finger pointing to? Take that word and write it down. Now set a timer for 6 minutes and just start writing about that word. You can write WHATEVER comes to mind. It doesn’t have to be poetic or fancy. It can be a list or a rant or just whatever comes out. The point is to just let your brain take you on a journey and see where you end up.


We do this A LOT. Below you can read what each of us wrote about the word “transformational.”


Give it a shot! You can use this word that we picked, or you can pick your own word. Either way, we’d love to see what you end up writing. Send us what you write at or comment on this blog below so everyone can see. Whichever you prefer! Ok, here we go….






Change. Moving from one thing to another. What once was to what will be. But what about the middle? What will happen in the middle of the big transformation? Do you even realize you are having a transformation. LIke growing from childhood. Do you realize you are changing and growing or does it come at you like a ton of bricks one day? I want to be transformational. SOft like clay but sturdy like clay too. That’s the balance I guess. The clay makes a big transformation. Dirt, mixed with some water. Then molded and maneuvered and worked. SO worked. The clay gets worked. THen some final touches. Final moldings, final cutting away, trimming. But it resembles something. It has a shape, form, purpose. And then it gets thrown in the freaking fire. FIRE. BUt it was made to withstand the fire and it takes on its final form...ready and purposed. What a transformation.
I guess we’re all transforming and being transformed. New skin. New hair. New cells. New life.




Starting here, ending there. Going from one place to another. Growing, changing, becoming. I think of the times in my life that were transformational times. College. New jobs. Moving.
Cooking: taking ingredients and transforming them into one delicious item.
It’s scary, transformation. It’s exciting. How can it be both?
Looking back, I think most transformation has been good, but some still hurts. One thing I know is that we are always transforming--becoming something new.
What would the world be if nothing ever changed? Boring, redundant, stale.
Transformers. My brother’s toys when we were kids. I wanted to play with them too. I never saw the movie “Transformers” and I really don’t ever plan to.
The journey of transformation is never ending, always exciting, sometimes fun, sometimes terrifying. We can’t get away from it so why do we try?
From caterpillars to butterflies--the ultimate example of transformation. So much darkness--maybe pain? Loneliness in that cocoon, but so much beauty when you get to the other side.

Lying To Yourself

Are you lying to yourself?

Let’s be honest. We all have those small voices that try to creep up in our heads and tell us lies. If you are pursuing a career, a dream, a family, anything...don’t think for a second that you’re alone in this struggle. We can guarantee you that you are not...and unfortunately even the most confident, put-together person you know has faced these same small inner voices. We heard someone wise once say that no one has a positive, confident, inner self voice. We can’t live in negativity, so what do we do? We re-train the inner voice.

How do we do that?

First, by calling out the lies. Face them head on and then shut them down. If you’re chasing a dream or a new career or if you've been at the same one for 20 years, you might be facing them too so we thought we’d address three common lies that we’ve had to fight through. You might be telling yourself a version of one of these, you might identify with all three, or you might be facing different ones and that’s okay. These are three that we have faced ourselves and want to help you overcome.

1. You’re not good enough.

If you’re breathing right now you have probably faced this lie. If you are a parent or student or banker or dancer or “insert ANYTHING here” you have probably heard this still small lie surface at some point.

This lie can be crippling (like most lies) but this one in particular can cut off the oxygen to your self-worth and keep you frozen and stagnant. If you are hearing this in your head or heart, it’s time to evaluate and remind yourself of some truths:

Truth #1: You have blood running through your veins and a heart beating in your chest, so you are automatically enough. For real, you are put here on this earth not as an accident, but on purpose...for a reason...and that, friends, is enough.

Truth #2: Everyone is faking it until they make it. No really. Everyone is learning as they go. And that age-old adage is so right on: “Fake it until you make it.” And the secret there is just by continuing, by pressing in, by putting in the time, you will learn, make mistakes, fail, grow, and succeed. By doing all of that, you’ll be making it. So "faking it" is really just putting on an extra layer of courage because you may have to learn on your feet and just not give into the fear that tells you you’re ill-equipped or not good enough. PS. If you are a pilot or doctor we implore you to not take the “fake it until you make it” advice. Hahaha. Please and thank you.

Truth #3: You are better than you think. Really. Whatever industry you are going after, there has to be some reason you were drawn to it and you are probably better than what you are giving yourself credit for. The one slightly positive note about this little lie that you’re dealing with is that it means you are self-aware. Self-awareness is an incredibly helpful tool to have in life.  So, yay! 

2. You’ll never reach your goals.  

Not with that attitude! This lie is all about mindset. It’s one of the more simple lies to undo and all it takes is some simple, focused time.

Quiet your mind. Grab a pen and some paper if you are a visual thinker. Make a list of your goals. Now make a list of all of the steps you’ve taken to reach them. Chances are you are WELL ON YOUR WAY to reaching your goals. Maybe you’re not seeing the progress you’d like? Or maybe you need to set smaller more tangible goals? Or maybe you’ve never set any goals in the first place and so quantifying “never reaching your goals” is actually true. If you don’t have goals, you’ll never reach any.

Now repeat after us:

I am reaching my goals every day. The small steps I am taking each day are leading me to succeeding.

Now, this will help for a little while. But, go ahead and google positive affirmations on Pinterest. Print them out and put them where you’ll see them. The words we see fill our minds and make a HUGE impact on what we think and how we act. So, find ‘em, print them, read them, embody them.

3. I'm Going To Fail

Ah, the F word. The giant, mother-load of the word. FAILURE. This one word is enough to suffocate all of your creativity, mojo and willpower in one fell swoop.

If you focus on failure it won’t make you fail, it will make you not even try.

Failure feels like the plague or some awful non-curable disease that you’ll be labeled and stuck with for the rest of your days. But the only way to really and truly fail is not to try at all, or to quit because you’re scared.

If you talk to anyone successful, you will find one commonality: they have ALL failed. Failure is a part of learning. It’s not a bad thing. It’s a teaching tool. It’s useful to the process; it’s necessary in fact. Like, super necessary. Failure is such a good teacher. Instead of running from it, embrace it. We’ve had our fair share of failures. From on stage blunders to business deals failing to getting paid $8 for a show that cost us $17 to park. Yeah, do the math on that one.

But, we can tell you this honestly. Each one of the failings has taught us something about ourselves personally or our business...or most times both. When you learn how to lose it’s really helping you learn how to win because you can’t have one without the other. Marcie Allen said this great phrase: "Fail forward." Yes. Failing is moving forward.

So, go ahead and fail. It’s ok. It means you are trying and if you keep trying long enough, you will win. We often say to each other: the only way to fail is if we quit.

You have freedom to try and succeed and to try and fail.

And here’s the thing, if you’re 15 or 50, these lies might keep popping up like whack-a-moles. We’re not sure if they ever go away completely, BUT the faster you learn the tools to combat the lies, the more natural it will become.

There you have it. What tools and tricks do you use to combat these voices? Just hit reply to this email. We can't wait to hear from you. We are all in this together. 

Much love,

Jill and Kate

PS: Remember this GOOD NEWS: You have the power inside of you to change. To face these lies, call them out and kick them to the curb. We aren’t giving you a magic formula. We are passing along tools and tricks we’ve learned from our very own struggles with these lies. We want YOU to thrive, grow and combat these lies so that you can live your best, most authentic, inspired life.


We had the opportunity to see a film screening two nights ago called Embrace. After leaving the film, all we want is for EVERY SINGLE FEMALE to see this film. Young and old, it doesn't matter. Click here to see if there's a screening near you.

The film maker (and star of the documentary) Taryn Brumfitt went on a 9 week filmed journey to find out why women hate their bodies so much after she had an unconventional "before" & "after" picture of herself go viral.

She had 3 children, was unhappy with her body and underwent a rigorous training schedule to compete in a bikini body-building contest. After the competition, she realized that all of the effort was not worth it and she ultimately found peace, health & happiness with her body when she just chilled out, lived life and enjoyed food. She started loving her body.

The thing that surprised us about the film is that it's about body image as a whole, not just about weight. She interviews a severe burn victim and a brain tumor survivor as well as many other women around the world. It is so powerful.  

The film was such a good reminder for us and it definitely struck a chord since we faced our own weight shaming issues last year.

We would highly recommend this movie to any female. It will move your heart and change your outlook on loving your own body. 

Thank you Taryn for inspiring us, for leading in such a brave way and for reminding us all that we are enough JUST THE WAY WE ARE.

Join the movement: #ihaveembraced

Much love,


PS. Just a heads up, there is some nudity in the film given the nature of the topic. Although it is not in a sexual nature, we just wanted to give you a heads up. Here's some info on a parent's guide to the film. 

Friction For Fire

Lately it’s felt like there are a million things going on in my brain. I just tried taking “a little rest” midday to regroup and my brain could not shut off. As I’m laying there I’m replying to texts and emails that I’ve been meaning to. I’m thinking about the flights I need to book, tweaking designs for upcoming projects, the run I need to do, organizing Houses of Africa web launch...all darting around in my head when I’m supposed to be resting. The number of tabs open on my web browser are equal or greater to the tabs open in my brain. Ya feel me?

If you were to ask me to describe this season right now in one word I would say this: friction. There is just a lot going on...and none of it feels breezy. It all feels like it’s all in the make it or break it stage. The fail or fly moments. The, either people are going to look back and say I’m a crazy success, or look back and say I'm a reckless failure.” Let’s be honest, friction is not comfortable, it’s the opposite, it’s uncomfortable.

It feels as though there are loads of plates in the air and I am constantly looking up trying to catch one, trying to chuck them high in the air to make sure they all stay airborne and avoid them all tumbling down to the ground at once. And when one inevitably falls to the ground, I’m trying not to get clobbered by the remnants.

If I’m being honest, all of my engines are running. Every cylinder is firing. I’m tired of the juggling. Juggling is exhausting. If you can relate, first off: Hi! You are not alone. Welcome. Second, you’re doing a good job. Keep going. And third, here is some good news that I thought of while I was lying down trying to rest: friction eventually brings FIRE (the good kind of fire, not the destroying kind. Phew.)

When you are trying to build a fire from nothing (which let’s be honest I don’t know much about), I hear you have to create friction. Create friction and it will bring a trail of smoke, and where there’s smoke, there’s fire. FIRE you guys! YES.

And that’s what I am needing right now: the relief of fire. The exhale that your hard work has paid off and you can sit beside your fire while it keeps you warm, toasts your marshmallows and sends light off into the darkness of the night.

So, let’s not run away from friction. Let’s fight through it because we know it’s leading us to fire. And that's what it will take (I'm telling myself this too), fight. Keep working hard. Keep working at it. Keep on fighting. Get after it. 

Sending you love, energy, and a clear brain… werk, werk, werk, werk, werk...and cheers to YOU. You who are chasing the dream, working two jobs, juggling a million balls...we are all in this together.  Keep going.





New England Adventures 2016


We've been in New England for a week and the time has flown by! The trip is sort of multi-facitated. Here's what's on the agenda: enjoy summertime on the East Coast with some of Jill's some a show in NYC on Aug 24th...and of course, eat loads of ice cream. Cause yes, we've been here a week and have already made several trips to Jill's hometown-local-best-ever ice cream shop. Here we are on our Southwest flight from Nash to Boston...feeling like real bosses that the middle seat was empty. Praise hands all day. 

We had a really fun weekend because one of our BFF's from Nashville, Jenny, flew up to hang out with us and see all of Jill's hometown glory. We packed in a TON-of-FUN in a little over 48 hours. It started on Thursday night...Jenny's flight landed at 10:30PM and we drove straight to the beach and sat on benches overlooking the gorgeous Atlantic to watch the meteor shower! It's like the sky had planned on her arrival and was celebrating! Did anyone else see it? It was incredible. This was the first kind we'd ever really seen clearly. We sat out for about an hour and probably saw over 20 meteors and shootings stars. AH-maz-ing. We couldn't get any photos of them, well because we aren't NASA, but we did take a ton of pictures the next day. Like this gem...three friends with Nubble Lighthouse in picturesque Maine. 

Found a dead crab. Jenny & Kate still didn't want to hold it. Just for reference the Atlantic is still cold as ever even though it was 95 degrees outside. 

We had breakfast at a cute little place in Maine called Stonewall Kitchen that is apparently a big thing but I, Kate, had never heard of it. HOLY CRAP THE JAM GUYS. I normally don't get this excited about jam, but they had rows and rows of different jams and it was sort of like what heaven is going to be like I think. This one, the Raspberry Peach Champagne Jam was my all-time favorite and if you love yourself at all you should order some. Obviously my favorite had "champagne" in it. Haha. Found out they sell this crack on Amazon...all bets are off on how many I may order. 

A highlight of the visit with Jenny was sitting on the rocks just talking. We didn't have anywhere to be or anything to check off of a list. We just pulled off the road, found some high rocks to sit on and just talked. It's amazing what comes from just creating space. Sooo thankful for honest conversations in such a beautiful setting. 

Can't be in New England without having a lobster roll...or two....(winky face.) Jill's mom, Syl, made them for us and they were delicious!

Took a stroll in downtown Portsmouth and found this amazing "Tall Ship" docked at the harbor. That was what everyone kept calling it. The "tall ship" festival. Ha! 

Anddddddd the ice cream. Yup. No way to properly communicate just how good it is. We'll try: it's just SO good. 

Loving our time out here. And so pumped to see everyone in New York! Check out our other tour dates to see if we'll be near you! 



Thoughts From Gate C-9

I'm sitting at the airport thinking about how one choice, one action can cause a HuGE ripple effect. The flight that I'm on was supposed to be boarding in 10 minutes from gate C9 but there was weather in Florida that delayed my flight. It not only delayed my flight, but it also delayed the flight before mine too. My plane is going from Fort Lauderdale to Tampa then to Nashville (to pick me up) and then to Denver, Colorado.

But there was weather in Florida and that weather had a ripple effect. It delayed 3 flights and it got me thinking. For who is this ripple causing some dramatic change to their life? Is it causing them to miss something important? Was someone rushing somewhere to say goodbye to a loved one? Or witness a graduation or wedding and will now miss it? For me, right now as I sit in the food court, it doesn't affect much. I'll get to see my family about 2 hours later tonight than I thought annnnnd I just have to entertain myself longer in the airport (hello Vino Volo 🍷😉.)

I've been talking to some dear friends today about how one person in your life can have such a grand ripple affect in your life & in others lives. If everybody's life is affected by some sort of ripple (because we are all coexisting here) then what kind of ripple am I putting out there? What am I sending out from myself? What wave am I creating? Selfishness? Love? Fear? Hope? Hate? 

Sometimes I convince myself that one person, one idea, one voice isn't enough to cause a ripple...but I'm wrong! It's a trap! Don't fall for it like I have in the past. One person, one idea, one voice can start a ripple that can affect MILLIONS of people. 

So, ask yourself, what waves am I creating? What are people walking away with after colliding with my ripple? 

Just some thoughts from the Nashville airport as I wait at C9. xo -Kate

Inspire Nashville 2016

A couple nights ago we got to attend an event called Inspire Nashville 2016. It was an evening raising funds for Onsite Workshop's Possibilities Inc. & celebrating two honorees, Scott + Tracie Hamilton, for their humanitarian work in Nashville and around the world.  

We have so many things to say about the event that it's hard to even know where to begin.

Let's start with this. In promo for the event we heard things like, "You'll leave the event more inspired than when you came." We both thought, yeah...okay...sounds good. But, neither of us realized how DEAD ON that statement would be. We absolutely were blown away by the stories, the music and by learning from so many amazing friends in the room. 

It would be hard to find two better people to learn from than the award recipients, Scott + Tracie. Their humility and kindness literally radiates from their core. They are genuine in their love and that's something so rare to find. They've been examples for us...lights on the horizon to follow. They kept saying: "We're all in this together. We couldn't do it without you. It takes all of us to make a change. How can you make the world a better place?" Yes. We are all in this together. It takes ALL of us together. 

We heard our friend Bob share about needing friends and voices we trust in our lives. His joy and love will hit you smack in the face in the most lovely way and make you want to get right out of your seat to start making some change. We all need trusted voices in our lives. 

We heard so much GREAT music. Melinda Doolittle, Calvin Nowell, Emily West, Sheryl Crow. Goodness...the voices that filled the room took the event from one level to the next. It felt holy and spiritual...literally like God was in the room. We cried. Like, almost on the verge of ugly crying. 

It's a beautiful thing to see people come together with the main goal of going out afterwards and actively participating in making the world better for others. You don't need a title or a skill set to help those around you. If you hold your hand up to your chest and feel that thumping...that means that you've got what it takes to be a world changer. You're ready. You've got what it takes to make humanity better by showing up and saying "How can I help?" And what's awesome is that the people on the stage weren't doing it for the recognition or applause...they are doing things in secret, going unnoticed, in the background and on the sidelines...doing it quietly for the betterment of others. Bob said it best: "Humble voices carry the furthest."

After an event like that it makes us want to re-focus. It makes us want to slow the busy schedules and the meetings and look closely at ourselves and our business and say: How can we help make the world a better place? 

If you aren't familiar with Onsite, go check out what they do...we cannot say enough good things about them. And possibilities Inc helps people go to Onsite that wouldn't be able to afford it otherwise. 

Thank you Miles, Onsite Workshops + Possibilities Inc for the wonderful work you do. Thank you for gathering us all and pointing us in the right direction.

Oh and one more fun note. They had a fancy red carpet at the door which is usually reserved for VIP's and celebs but they wanted everyone to walk the red carpet and feel special and important. Isn't that fun? So we hammed it up and cheesed our way for the photographers like we knew what we were doing. Check out the pics below :)

Ok...we could probably write like 6 more pages about how amazing the evening was, but we'll just leave it here.

Hand to chest. Feel the beating. Go change the person at a time.

Love you all!

To The Brokenhearted on Mother's Day

I had intended to write a blog about my mother and how much she has taught me over the last few years. But, I wrote her a card (that didn’t arrive on time...#fail) and called her today and told her all of the things I would’ve written about here on the blog.

Instead, I have this nagging feeling that I’m supposed to write about something else. But, in all honesty, it scares me to write about a topic so grand, so sensitive, so fragile, so feels overwhelming and so for the majority of the day I just kept putting it off...but my courage has caught up with me and I’m going to try. I may not succeed, but at least I’m going to try.

This is the letter I’ve been wanting to write all day:

To the brokenhearted on Mother’s Day,

I’m sorry and I feel you.

I’m writing to the ones that have lost their mothers.

I’m writing to the ones that have lost their babies.

I’m writing to the ones that are currently waiting to become mothers.

And I’m writing especially to the single ladies (thanks Beyoncé) that find themselves in the situation where motherhood isn’t even an option...cause that’s where I’m at.

When I was younger I didn’t seem to mind as much. I actually didn’t even notice really. I wanted to celebrate my mom and that was about it.

But now on days like today I feel a lonely-heaviness I haven’t felt before. See, a majority of my friends are married and have kids. If truth be told, most of my friends are like, “having their last kid.” And through no fault of theirs, their reality makes me feel sooooo far behind in life. And it feels super lonely.

You might be thinking, well, you could have a baby now if you wanted to. True. I’ve got the goods and I know how the birds and the bees work...but, I really would love to find a husband first. If I’ve learned anything from observing, it’s that being a single parent is hard--like, ‘they should get their own holiday’ kind of hard. In my world, having a two parent home is just where my sights are set...and that hasn’t happened for me yet, which means that being a mom hasn’t happened yet. And because I’m sharing this does not mean that I don’t love my life and yes, I’m trusting in the timing of my life...insert all the good quotes here...I’m just saying days like today feel hard and bring something to the surface that I wanted to get out on paper.

I have all but avoided social media today. Picture after picture of happy people my age with their babies or husbands proudly adoring their baby mama’s. And I want to celebrate with them. I do, and I have. But, if I didn’t acknowledge the heaviness I feel today I wouldn’t be telling the whole truth.

Maybe you’re reading this and you feel the same way. Welcome. Maybe you’re reading this and think I sound like a whiner...that’s okay, you’re welcome here too. I just wanted to write something to address that days like today can hurt.


  • If today is hard because you’ve lost your Mom: I’m sorry and I honor you and your mom today in my heart.
  • If you’re a mama who has lost your baby...born or unborn: I’m sorry and I honor you and your baby(ies) today in my heart.
  • If you’re waiting patiently right now to become a mama: I’m sorry and I am celebrating you in hopes that you will soon step into motherhood.
  • And finally, if you’re like me, where motherhood doesn’t even seem like an option on the table: I’m with you and I honor you in the struggle on days like today that are hard.

You are seen.

You are noticed.

You are vital to your community, with or without a spouse or kids.

If I could encourage you to do one thing today...find a mom in your life who’s doing it well and call or text her and tell her that. Tell her she’s doing a great job. Never cease celebrating even in your own pain. It’s kind of a holy experience...and one that I believe is truly healing.

You are loved. There is hope. Don’t doubt that miracles happen and that all could change in a minute.

You’re allowed to be hopeful and hurting at the same time.

Sending much love to you today,




Why We Care About Kelly Ripa's Return

“Our Long National Nightmare Is Over.”

That’s what Kelly Ripa said as she quieted the audience after a supportive, cheering crowd welcomed her with a long standing ovation this morning.

Yes, you bet your cute butts we were watching this morning with eyes and ears glued to the TV.

Why, you ask? Well, here’s why.

One, we love Kelly Ripa. Actually, we really, really respect her. She is an absolute pro in her craft and never takes herself too seriously. Watching her do her thing is inspiring and we love to learn from people who are doing things excellently. Plus, she loves the fans. She is always polite and kind and tries to talk/take pictures with excited folks in the crowd. She sets an example for us to follow. She remembers that without those butts in the seats or the seats of viewers at home, she has no show. We’ve gotten to meet her once and what you see on TV is what you get in real life.

Two, we have heard all the news cycle drama over the last week after Michael announced his exit to GMA and we wanted to see how she would handle it.

Do you know what was super annoying about all the news? How people immediately called Kelly a “diva” because she was taking a few days to herself. Please note, this was the second time she found out moments before it was announced publicly that her co-host would be leaving. She’s been with the company for 26 years. It just seems like that would never happen to a male co-host. And if it did, if he took a few days to think it over, he wouldn’t be called a “diva” or other colorful words that people have been calling her.

Here’s what we loved about what Kelly said. She said, that she did take a couple days to think things over so that she wouldn’t say something she regretted. She said it had opened up conversations about communication, consideration and respect in the workplace. She said apologies had been made. We watched and had so much respect for her in that moment. That is how real life works. You aren't always going to be in perfect, non-confrontational situations...but through this we were shown an example of how it's possible to work through difficult situations. 

She didn’t cower in fear. we're sure a lot of voices were telling her to just be quiet. To stand still, and look pretty. But she told her truth. And we could not be more inspired by her strength and courage.

We fully believe that when a woman tells her truth, even when it’s hard, even when her voice shakes, even when she loses her job over it (we would kind of know about that), that it moves the needle forward for women everywhere.

We are living in a time when women need to use their God-given voices and experiences to stand up for themselves and for other women.

Kelly, we love you and are SO proud of you. Thank you for being honest. Thank you for telling us that you are human...that the situation hurt, but that through communication and courage you have set an example for us all.

And let’s be honest. If a diva is what you are, then gosh, we want to be diva’s 24/7.

Much love,


PS. If you missed the show this morning you can watch it here.






Legit Note To Self

I (Kate) have been trying something new these past few weeks. Trying to take action over my own life. One thing I noticed that I've been doing is when I wake up--first thing--before I’m even really awake--I pick up my phone and check email, check texts, and check all of the social medias.

It’s funny, this NEVER puts me in a good mood. I don't like that I do it. It starts me out on the comparison/failure route before I'm even fully awake (I wrote about this earlier) and it's information overload. Getting business emails (good or bad) should be read only after coffee, preferably when you are ready and in a productive mindset...not when you are cycling out of the last stages of REM.

This needed to change. So, because I am a visual person and learn more from action than thought, I had to make it a very practical, tangible change. Before I went to sleep, I wrote a note to myself and I put it over my phone. Ha! So funny, right? At first I thought I would just write: DON’T TOUCH THIS. WAKE UP FIRST. STAY AWAY. But then I thought about making it more intentional. So I wrote myself a note of intention, declaration and affirmation for the day ahead. It’s been awesome.

I wake up. Come to full-ish consciousness. Then grab my note to myself and I read it OUT LOUD like a lunatic. Haha. I kid you not. And you’s been awesome.

I read this book recently called “Switch On Your Brain” and the author says you wake up with 300 new brain cells each morning (or something like that) and that you decide what to do with them. I’m like….why would I want to program them to make me feel less-than on social media or like I"m already behind at the start of my day?

So, you should try it. Before you go to sleep, write yourself a note. Tell yourself what a great day you are going to have. Mind over matter. Put it on your phone if that's the first thing you look at when you wake up.

If you need pointers, I Pinterest-searched “positive affirmations” and got loads of great ideas. I include some Bible verses in mine--do that if that’s your thing...if not, don’t :) Are you trying to be more patient? Tell yourself how well you are doing at being patient. Are you trying to be less hard on yourself? Write kind words to yourself that you need to hear!

Here’s a pic of my note one morning this week:

It’s legit note-to-self time, y’all.

Let us know how your note-to-self changes your day. Much love.



H2o YO.

As you well know, water intake is numero uno of importanc-o. You’ve got to stay hydrated to keep everything running healthily...especially as we move into spring and summer. So they say.

So, we’ve been experimenting with fun water flavors. A little pizzazz for your H2o. Here are some of our favs...and it's really easy. Just slice up the fruit. Add loads of ice. Then H2o. Sometimes we even put it in a wine glass if we need to trick ourselves into thinking we're fancy (or drinking liquor.)

Strawberry slices + Lemon slices

Mint + Cucumber + Lemon

Lime + Strawberry

What are your tricks for kicking up your water?

We'd love to hear them.

xo j&k



Don't Let Winter Kill You

Recently I’ve let myself slip into the mindset that change isn’t possible. The way things are right now is the way they’ll always be. That’s the lie I've been telling myself. That’s the lie that snuck in.

It’s easy for the lie to sneak in while you’re waiting. Whether you are waiting in the Dr.’s office or waiting metaphorically in life...that’s when the quiet gets quiet and the lies start to sneak in.

I was mentally trying to work my way out of this mindset a few days ago and so I went for a walk. (Holy mother-of-all-that’s-pure-and-holy, people...if you are stuck or need refreshment or are depressed or sad or frustrated or impatient...GO FOR A WALK. Get outside. It helps every.single.time.)

I saw the trees in their new lovely spring-ish glory. All bright and green and budding like it was their job.

I was reminded how a few months back we had an ice and snow storm.

There were no leaves. No buds. Just ice, snow and death. Do you know what the trees didn’t do during this time? Rip themselves from the ground, throw themselves in a fire and call it a day. They didn’t give up and adopt the mindset that this was forever. You know what these trees know that I am needing a reminder of today: SEASONS CHANGE. The trees trust the process of dying during the winter, of being pruned back, but they know that when winter is over, SPRING COMES. They submit to the process. They have accepted it. Because they know that seasons don’t last forever. They can’t. Good or bad, it’s a universal rule that the one thing you can count on in life, is CHANGE. (Guess who’s not so good at change? This kid.)

If you are in a season of waiting and deadness, I have good news. SPRING IS COMING. After the winter season, the only option is to grow. Thank the Lord above. That is hope, friends.

I love Spring. I think it’s my favorite season. When I’ve had a long, hard winter (literally or metaphorically,) it can sometimes be hard for me to get myself in the Spring mindset. Warmth. Newness. Opportunity. Growth. Hard work. Yes, there is still the occasional frosty morning that takes you by surprise, but don’t let that throw you backwards. Winter is DONE. Gone. Done-zo. Behind us. Get in the mindset of SPRING.

I just googled “spring,” for shiggles, (shits + giggles) and here’s what Wikipedia said:

Spring and "springtime" refer to the season, and also to ideas of rebirth, rejuvenation, renewal, resurrection and regrowth.

Yes and amen to that. If you have been living in a winter mindset like I have, let’s jump into this weekend with a full on spring fling wake up call. Deal? Deal.





Insta Stole my Mojo

I've really wanted to blog more lately. But, for the life of me I can't seem to get myself to do it. I have been mulling it over in my mind relentlessly because in my heart I feel like I have so much to say...if not for others, but for my own sanity & self-care and I just CANNOT seem to do it. Arghhhh.

I will wake up with determination: "TODAY I BLOG!" I say to myself. Then one thing leads to another and something gets prioritized above me sitting down to write....and then at the end of the day I'm mad at myself and feel all "womp womp" because I didn't do what I set out in my heart to do. I end up feeling disappointed in myself and discouraged overall. But alas, my positivity remains, so I wake up and well...pretty much the same thing happens. And this cycle has been going on for the past few months.

When you're a writer, you get these pangs throughout the day--ideas you need to explore and thoughts you want to share...burdens you carry that can only be lightened by sharing. Writing them down, laying them out and looking for the familiar voices to resonate with the "yeah, me too" comments.

So...I sat with myself and tried to really think about it.

I came up with 2 things and they both involve Instagram. Instagram stole my blogging Mojo. Well, sort of.


Here's #1: I feel emotionally spent cross-posting on every social media platform. By the time I've Instagrammed, Facebooked, Tweeted and Snapchatted, it's NO FREAKING WONDER that I don't have any emotional energy to pour into a blog post. I mean, really. I've already shared a quick pic, posted a recipe, an inspirational quote or joke....Who has time for a whole blog after that?


Number #2: Instagram was the real culprit. I would get lost looking at pictures of people that I don't know. I love double-tapping on my friends and family--yes, this is all good and happy. But, I find myself scrolling through and falling down a rabbit hole of people who are strangers. Then I start comparing myself to them (friends & strangers.) These are the thoughts while falling down the rabbit hole:

"I'm not doing enough. Look how much they're doing. Look how pretty they are. Look how skinny she looks. Look how happy they are. I want to be on an exotic beach, etc etc etc."

I am comparing myself to them and it is STEALING MY JOY, PEOPLE

And I am doing it to myself (!!!!)

That's the real humdinger. I keep choosing it. I keep picking up my phone and scrolling and scrolling and, well, you get the idea. Face in palm. Why, oh why, would I do something to myself that would steal my joy. I also think it has stifled my creative juices. When I scroll, that small voice in my head starts to shout "everybody is ahead of you" and "everyone is already writing all the words and singing all the songs" and "everyone has it together" and I start to believe it. That is dangerous territory for me...maybe for you too? When I gather my sound mind, I realize that no, Kate, that's not true. Everyone is not ahead of me (like that's even a thing) and no, Kate, all the words and songs have not been written and sung. Phew.


(Also, I'd be remiss not to say that another reason I may be a bit subconsciously apprehensive about blogging is because last year at around this time, I wrote a blog that quite literally changed the course of my year. Shortly after posting the blog, I was fired. It literally brought so much emotion into my life: anger, joy, fear, etc...pretty much all of it. So, as you can imagine, I think somewhere inside I am still recovering from the damage that caused.)

So what's the solution? How do I move forward? I have a two-step plan:


1) Post less on social & scroll less on Insta.

2) Blog more.


Wow...not rocket science, huh? But I am going to give it a whirl and dump all my thoughts and ideas on the blog. Sure, it's a little less convenient than Instagram, but I think that's where I want to build a life and community. I want to trade-in the double-tap life for the real life.




Laugh Cause It's Just Funny Sometimes

Last Monday, I sat in the car and laughed so hard that I full on cried. Well, I think the laughter was brought on by feeling somewhat defeated in certain areas of my life and you know when you have to laugh at the irony of it all...but that laughter somehow taps into the reservoir of hurt and suddenly you aren’t laughing are bawling your eyes out. But kind of giggling too. Ahhhh..we women are just a big ball of awesome emotion. And no, I wasn’t even going to start my period...I know that’d be the obvious cue, but alas, no such luck. Here is a photographic sequence of proof. (PS. Jill really is a bestie for life isn't she??? Taking pictures of me LOSING it. Haha...she wins.)

See, I’ve felt stuck lately. S-T-U-C-K. (See, I just spelled out stuck letter by letter..that’s how stuck I feel.)  In certain areas (or maybe all areas) of my life I’ve been feeling stuck, and gosh, I just haven’t got the foggiest idea what’s going to get me out of it.

I mean, I’m doing all the right things. I am. I promise. But sometimes I think God just wants us to wait...ugh, the “w” word. It closely resembles the “p” word. Patience. Let me be straight, I have a lot of natural strengths...none of them naturally lie in those two words. Being patient and waiting SUCK for me. Maybe they do for everyone, but I loathe it. Efficiency is the name of my game and neither the ‘W’ word or the ‘P’ word fit nicely into efficiency.

So, I’m here for you, fellow traveler. If you’re stuck or being told to wait, I’m sorry...but I bet it’s for both of our overall good. I’m going to tell you what I am telling myself. Literally. Here is a letter to myself:


Don’t give up. Keep going. Your breakthrough is right around the corner. Smile. Find something to be thankful for. Think about if you were going to be diagnosed with cancer tomorrow, what would you be disappointed that you didn’t do TODAY? Don’t grumble or complain. Have that glass of wine at 4 pm (ehh hem 3:30pm) if you want to. You got this. The waiting is good for you. God has got you. Chill. He withholds no good thing. Be thankful for today and what you’ve got. Seasons do not last forever. Just look outside. Love, You.

So, there ya go. I wish I had a magic pill to hand out if you’re feeling overwhelmed in the waiting. Just know you’re not alone. You’re never alone. Okay, it’s know what time it is. Wink wink.

Much love...and happy National Margarita Day. (I’ll be enjoying one after my 3:30 glass of wine)









A {Guest Post} About Our Lullabies Album

Hey friends...Happy Friday!

We saw someone tweet a link to a blog about our recent Lullabies album a few days ago and after reading it we HAD to share it with y'all. Reading her words reminds us of two things:

  1. We are all in this together. 
  2. Music has power to change us. 

So, without rambling on, and with her permission, please read these beautiful words. We hope they inspire and move you as much as they did us. Thanks Megan (@mcaro05) for your honesty, openness and for sharing your story. Much love...j&k


When I was in high school, a loved one was suffering from severe depression. I remember another wise friend of mine saying to this person "you need to arm yourself with the necessary tools to fight this." I loved that phrase then and I love it now. Whenever I find myself struggling, I go back to those words. Over the years I've personally found solace in many different "tools:" prayer, writing, talking it out, and, most recently, working out. I've found all of these things to help clear my head, to give me confidence, and to bring me comfort, and peace. But above all of these things, there's one that stands above the rest:


Music brings something out in me like nothing else can. I am so often comforted by lyrics or a melody. I have certain songs that I turn to for nearly every mood. When it comes down to it, music is there for me. And no matter the genre, I can always find something that sparks a fire in me, or something that brings me peace. And as someone who is very often filled with worry, peace is something I long for.

Nighttime is a parade of worry. It's like as soon as the world starts to calm down, my brain decides it's the perfect time to craft to do lists, negative thoughts, long term worries, and overall emotion. I've struggled with this for several years. There are nights I only get a few hours of sleep because I simply cannot get my brain to settle. I've tried nearly every remedy: meditation, prayer, Melatonin, oils, deep breathing, the list goes on and on. And usually, these things work. For a short time. And then it's back to the struggle. 

Music, though, has once again come to the rescue. A few months ago, one of my favorite musical acts, Jill and Kate, released an album called "Lullabies." And. As the title suggests, it is an album of lullabies that they wrote. The duo surprised a good friend for her baby shower, as this friend had been requesting this kind of album from Jill and Kate. 

So, at 28 years old, I decided to give this album a try to help me sleep. And it's worked. The songs are so beautiful and pure. Each song is special for its own reason, but the song "Sunshine" brings me a unique sense of comfort. I could see that most would think the song is intended to be a parent's message to their child, but when I listen I imagine it's God's words to me. I take great comfort in knowing that God is on my side. This song has done wonders for my prayer life.

I never quite make it through the whole album without falling into a peaceful sleep. I just put it on shuffle and let it do its work. I find something new every night. 

I don't usually listen to the album during the day. I kind of like to have it saved. I don't want it to lose it's magic. I do, however, turn to it in moments of panic, when I need something to bring me back down. 

I've been trying to figure out the best way to share the impact this album has had on me. It didn't seem enough to just post a Facebook status. This album is so much more. It's my safety net, it's the words I need to hear, and it's the tool I use to arm myself for battle. My hope is that by sharing this, others who may struggle with nighttime anxiety or insomnia will take a listen and find just as much comfort as I do.

And while you're at it, check out Jill and Kate's other music. Those two have something so special. Their songs are written from the heart and they harmonize so beautifully. Their music has been part of my life for several years now, and I'm super grateful for that.

You can find Lullabies on ITunesSpotify, or Amazon.





Put Yourself On The List

Hey friends…

It’s winter where I am. This means gray skies, some snow, cold temps and if I’m being honest it’s sometimes a real fight to stay out of the depressed zone during these months. I am slowly still coming off my post Christmas holidaze...what, you mean it’s not normal to have dessert for breakfast and start drinking festive cocktails at 3pm? Ah yes, back to reality.

I kind of let myself go in the winter.

Like, what’s the real importance of shaving your legs in the winter anyway? Or why do I need to get off the couch and go for a walk outside? It’s cold out there people. I sort of hibernate. But, that never makes me happy. So I am trying to not have January suck this year.

I had this thought the last few days. We blogged about it towards the end of December and the thought is this: TAKE IT BACK. Whatever you’ve let go--take it back.

For me, January in Nashville is gray and I sometimes get into a funk. I have prayed and worked really hard at taking my January back. Not letting the gloom get to me and as an added bonus it’s actually been pretty sunny this January. Woop woop.

Oprah said it best, “Sometimes you need to put yourself on the list.” Do something for you. Take yourself back. Yesterday I got my eyebrows waxed. This might sound silly, but it was something that I wanted to do that would make me feel better about myself. I know it can be a frivolous expense but I was doing something for me. I was putting myself on the list.

Maybe you need to put yourself on the list and take something back? Maybe it’s your joy. Maybe it’s your sense of adventure. Heck, maybe it’s just soaking in a tub and shaving your legs. Whatever it is, I encourage you to take it back. You can’t control everything in life, but you can control yourself and your mindset.

Put on your power pants and say to yourself: I GOT THIS. I AM TAKING IT BACK. Now go and put yourself at the top of the list.

Much love,




Failure Is Your Friend (Part 3: 3 things We've Learned in 13 years)


This is the final segment of the blog series today: Three things we’ve learned in 13 years of being independent musicians.

Here is our #3:

3. Success will likely not look how you think it will look and failure doesn’t mean you’re finished.


Let’s start with the failure part. Failure is not a sexy word, but guys, WE HAVE FAILED SO MUCH (and we will continue to fail as we continue to grow.) You might remember our blog about how we went to law school and told a bunch of law students about our biggest epic fails. We had a long list of them! Failure exists and you will experience it. But, it’s not the end! It feels like it sometimes, but often it’s just the beginning.

Sometimes failure can be your greatest asset.

We look at our last year and in some ways we felt like we had failed along the way. Or that we were failures. Getting fired, wanting to give up, feeling adrift. But what we got out of those experiences went way beyond our expectations. We were able to share our experience with so many people, stand up against body shaming, and meet people along the way who have changed our trajectory in a big way. Don’t look at failure as the end. See it as the beginning of something new.

When it feels like you’ve failed, instead of focusing on what can’t be anymore, ask these 2 questions:


1. What can I learn from my failure?

2. What does this make possible?


Asking yourself these questions will change everything. It opens up a new world of possibilities. The only failure that you can’t recover from is giving up. Pretty crazy right? You can only be stopped, if you stop.

And now onto When we started out, we thought success maybe looked like becoming the next Dixie Chicks or Destiny’s Child (who doesn’t secretly want to be #QueenBey?) Or having a huge smash hit on the radio? Or maybe having our own reality show? It hasn’t looked like that for us. We have had, and continue to have, our own unique story and our own unique successes. The amazing part is, we could have never dreamt them up.

We didn’t know that success would look like...

...traveling the world as backup singers. We NEVER even thought about being backup singers. Like, we didn’t consider it once. Ha! Then all of a sudden, there we were, at the Daytona 500 in front of 250,000 people singing backup for one of our favorite singers, which led to over 6 years of touring as backup singers. Didn’t see that one coming.

We didn’t know that success would look like...

...playing house shows in your living rooms and backyards that would be some of the most rewarding shows we could ever play. The connections we have made with so many people have been truly encouraging and enjoyable.

We never imagined success would mean...

...we’d be on tour opening for one of our favorite artists ever, Jann Arden, traveling around Canada singing our songs and then getting to listen to her sing her songs every night. We had “pinch me” moments all tour long. We still do when we think about it.

We didn’t know that success would mean...

...that in 13 years we’d have relationships in our lives that have kept us breathing when we’ve wanted to stop, filled us with hope and laughter, and given us our greatest memories. Nothing beats that kind of success.

If success had looked how we thought it would look, who knows if we would have ever had these incredible relationships and experiences or if we would have even made it 13 years at all.

You have your own will likely not look like anyone else’s. Don’t limit your success to looking like someone else’s success. It can and will be so much more special and unique, because it’s yours.

So those are 3 things we’ve learned in our 13 years on this crazy journey. To recap:


1: Be thankful for small beginnings.

2: Never sacrifice a relationship for an opportunity.

3: Success will likely not look how you think it will look and failure doesn’t mean you’re finished.

Maybe you thought we’d write about how we learned to use ProTools or what kind of vehicle is the best to tour around in. Maybe you thought we’d write about how the internet has changed how we do business or what microphones our voices sound best to record an album independently in your basement. Or what it was like performing on Ellen for the first time! How and what REALLY goes on behind the scenes at SNL. Not this time around. Yes, we have learned all of those things and will share them with you soon, but these are three of the most important things we’ve learned along the way.

Thanks for being part of our story..and if you’re reading this, count yourself as a part of our success. We are counting you with grateful hearts.

Let’s all get started on the next 13 years: thankful, holding relationships close and loving failure!

Much love,


Living In Tension (Part 2: 3 Things We've Learned in 13 Years)

Today we want to tell you why we've tried to live in tension for 13 years. It might sound miserable, but it's not. It's a tension we hold dearly to. Read on and we'll explain what we mean...

Yesterday we gave you a little history about how we got started 13 years ago. We also shared one thing we learned.

1. "Be thankful for small beginnings."

Today we’re sharing a second thing we learned. This one is CRUCIAL to how we run our business, our personal lives, and how we navigate all of our decisions. We've learned it the hard way sometimes and have seen how it can hurt us when we do it wrong. We've also been in this long enough to see the benefits of doing this the right way. So here it is:

2. Never sacrifice a relationship for an opportunity.

This is perhaps the most important thing we have learned. At the end of the day, all we have are relationships. We’ve messed some up along the way, that’s for sure. We’ve lost friends, screwed up dating relationships, and have experienced loss both personally and professionally by choosing opportunities over relationships at times.

Opportunities come up and sometimes they sound like they’ll change your life. Maybe they sound like a good networking opportunity or maybe they pay really well. Sometimes that’s great. Those things are needed to keep your career alive and moving forward. It’s often right to say yes to good opportunities. But we cannot think of an opportunity that we’ve been offered or that could arise in the future that would outweigh the benefits we have in having strong, healthy relationships with friends, family, and in business. You just can’t replace that. It sounds trite or like it’s “the right thing to say.” But we’ve lived it, learned it and found it to be true.

So, invest in relationships. Yes, take opportunities that come have to. Life involves balancing so much, but always consider the whole picture first. If an opportunity will compromise or take advantage of a relationship, take time to consider what’s more important. What we’ve found is that for us, relationships trump the opportunity every time.

Remember how we said in our blog yesterday that we drove from NH to LA with our 2 is a pic to prove it :) August 2006. Pitstop in Vegas. Ha! Great memories.  

Remember how we said in our blog yesterday that we drove from NH to LA with our 2 is a pic to prove it :) August 2006. Pitstop in Vegas. Ha! Great memories.  

Our professor Warren at The Contemporary Music Center has been a guide and a mentor for us throughout our career. He is someone we still go to for advice to this day. Early on, we were preparing to go out on one of our first huge tours and he was talking to us about business and life. We were concerned about staying grounded, keeping level heads and not getting swept up in the hype of it all. He told us this:

"If you are aware of the tension, you're probably okay. If you've lost the awareness of that tension, then you're in trouble."

He was saying, if you're still worried about being swept up in it, it means you're not swept up in it yet. If you’re concerned about asking for that favor from a friend that could boost your career and are debating it heavily, you’re probably perfectly living in the tension. Keep that tension. As soon as you're swept up in it, or ask for favors without a second thought, the tension is probably gone which means your perspective might be gone too. You will start valuing opportunity more than relationships.

That's why we've spent 13 years trying to live in the tension. This word can be so negative, but we are talking about a positive, healthy tension. The tension of caring more about people than opportunities. The tension of trying to have integrity and strong character over “success” according to the world or industry standards. We try to hold this tension even if it feels uncomfortable and we try to hold it in every decision we make.

Relationship investments look different than opportunity or business investments. We’d venture to say that the relationship investments will always pay off in the long run...whereas opportunity investments might pay out quickly but may not last. We want to build lives, legacies and business that lasts...even if it takes longer. And yes, sometimes we've missed out on opportunities because we weren't willing to make the sacrifice. As we look back, we are always glad we did. 

What are you investing in? Do you need more of the “good tension” in your life? That’s been one of our biggest lessons the 13 years has taught us. Tomorrow we’ll share one more thing  we’ve learned in our 13 years...things aren’t always as the appear.

Until tomorrow...




3 Things We’ve Learned In 13 Years

You might be new to us or maybe you’ve been journeying along with us for several years. Either way, here’s what you might not know: We met 13 years ago today (January 11th) on a tiny island off the coast of Massachusetts called Martha’s Vineyard. You might be thinking, 13 years?!? You were only 10 when you met? Thank you. You’re very kind. That’s right. ;)

We were in college and we both decided to spend a semester of our junior years studying music at The Contemporary Music Center. Green as can be, we each stepped off the boat (you have to take a ferry to get there) and showed up in our new digs, a rustic cabin, where we were randomly placed together as roommates. Jill, a shy basketball player from a small New Hampshire town, and Kate, an outgoing California girl who loved makeup, matching outfits and had grown up all over the world. We were as different as could be, but something clicked.

One of our oldest pics together...please note Jill's MV hoodie :) We're thinking this MUST HAVE BEEN a middle of the night rehearsal because we look SOOOOOO tired!

One of our oldest pics together...please note Jill's MV hoodie :) We're thinking this MUST HAVE BEEN a middle of the night rehearsal because we look SOOOOOO tired!

The first time we sang together was for a class assignment for which we had to co-write a song. When we started singing, we felt like Joey from F-R-I-E-N-D-S when he finds his identical hand twin. We had a musical chemistry that just worked and we formed a duo pretty much right away.

Thinking back on that time, it feels like a million years ago and sometimes we wonder what the heck we were thinking, going out into the world trying to make it in the music industry. But you never know the dreams you will find in your heart and how God will direct you towards them. We spent 4 months writing, harmonizing, recording, and planning our big jump into the world of music. Then off we went to chase the dream.

We’ve learned a heck of a lot in those 13 years and we are learning more today than ever. One of the greatest pieces of advice we ever received when we started out was to “Be teachable.” Always be willing to learn new things and never think you’re too good, too smart, too famous, too experienced, too rich, too old to learn from anyone, anything or any situation. So we wanted to share with you 3 things we’ve learned along the way. Here we go:

  1. Be thankful for small beginnings.

After we recorded our first album (which we did mostly ourselves to save money) we decided to move to LA to try to get our foot into the pop world. We had no idea what that meant, but it sounded good to us at the time. We drove from New Hampshire to LA with two of our other best friends. On the way out, we stopped by Jill’s great aunt and uncle’s house to say goodbye. They gave us an envelope with $100 and sent us on our way (thanks Callie + Bill.) It felt like 1 million dollars to us. We got to LA and shared an apartment with another friend we knew there. We shared a room and a bathroom, living in very close quarters.  We worked tons of weird, boring, odd jobs to pay the bills and we learned how to live off of very little (and a couple credit cards...thanks Amex...#sorryDaveRamsey.)

The first shows we played when we started out were coffeehouse open mics or hole-in-the-wall bars where no one listened and we were paid in beer, which we hate. (Give us some wine and now we’re talking.) But we were getting experience by playing in public. Testing out our songs, working on our show.

There were times down the road where we had much more. We eventually got bigger apartments where we didn’t have to share a room or a bathroom. We booked shows that actually paid us in money, not beer. We got to have jobs that were the opposite of boring and mundane. Dream jobs. We had more than we needed. (We paid it off, Dave Ramsey!)

We have also had times where things have been slow again, where we’ve had to go back to saving money and living off of very little. But guess what? We knew how to do that because that’s how we started out. We didn’t even mind it because we learned how to appreciate both extremes. Thankfulness is everything. Learn how to find it in whatever you are experiencing because it will change you. Small beginnings are the best beginnings.

Tomorrow we'll tell you a second thing we've learned in this 13 year's something that has drastically changed the way we navigate opportunities. Tune in tomorrow. 

Much love,

Jill and Kate

PS. If you need us for the rest of the day we'll just be partying -jumping up and down cause t's our Friend-A-Versary! A-wooo-hooo!

PPS: In honor of 13 years, we are offering 10 EXCLUSIVE packages, for a limited time only. This package is our ENTIRE catalog of physical albums (all autographed) including Finding My Own Way which will only be available digitally from this point forward. The package also includes a t-shirt, a journal and pen set, and a handwritten note from us. Get yours here!